Veteran Nollywood actor Kanayo O. Kanayo has stated that men who cannot support their families have no right to demand sex from their wives.
The actor, whose character is often referred to as “Nnanyi Sacrifice” (The Father of Sacrifices), shared the controversial stance in an Instagram post on Sunday.
Kanayo, known for his outspoken opinions, expressed concern over the increasing number of men relying on women for support and urged men to take responsibility for their families.
The 62-year-old actor said: “I woke up this morning disturbed by a trend. It is useless and dangerous when a man depends on a woman to feed him. The usual thing, which is the most disturbing, is that women want to defend their husbands so that what happens inside does not spread outside.
“Sometimes this is detrimental to their progress. Every man has responsibility for his family. As we read in the holy books, a man who cannot take care of his family is worse than an infidel. But what I say in this note is that a man who cannot feed his family has no use or need to use his private part with a woman.”
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The multi-award winning actor advised women to be careful when choosing a partner, especially when a man does not provide it.
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He said: “They have a responsibility and women still try to cover for their husbands. This advice is for young women: know who you will marry. Everywhere today it is said: “I love him, I love him.” When he doesn't provide anything, when he doesn't produce, you start to have ideas about accepting advances from other men.
“This rule has disturbed me because of women who take their husbands away even when he loses his job, or is always at home, or does not fight or rush like other men. Women need to protect their husbands, but to a certain extent; In your defense, don't make the man irresponsible to the point that he no longer accepts your accounts.
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In the film, Doyen shared a personal story to illustrate his point, mentioning a man he knew who avoided his housework and let his wife take care of everything.
Kanayo said: “I have personal experience from a man I know who, even if his wife's car breaks down, he pretends not to know about it, as well as other responsibilities around the house. “It got to a level where the cover became so open that it was no longer a blanket.”
He warned women not to protect their husbands to the point of allowing irresponsibility, especially when their young children are involved.
The 62-year-old veteran actor stated, “As much as you can cover for your husband, don't cover for him to the level of irresponsibility, especially if your children are still in the growing stage where you have to pay school fees. etc. It brings a lot of temptation to women, especially when advances are made.
“When you protect your husband, don't protect him from being stupid and irresponsible. It is necessary for every man to commit to hard work. Let us make men design their efforts to protect their families, ensuring that children's school fees are paid.”
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Reflecting on the African cultural context, Kanayo noted that financial responsibility traditionally falls on men. He said: “We are Africans; We do not share bills 50/50. It is good that if a woman has something, she should contribute.
“But then, let us maintain our responsibilities. The real problem is when a man gets to 55-60 and doesn't just make sure he was playing the monkey game when he has it and then says the opposite: that he doesn't have it. Ladies, be careful who you marry.”
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The actor's views have sparked debate about gender roles, financial responsibility and marriage in African households, with many people divided over his strict stance on a husband's obligations.
Kanayo married Nneka Onyekwere in 1999 and they have four children together.
In June, while speaking on 'The Honest Bunch' podcast, Kanayo revealed that he had been separated from his wife for almost four years and only fully understood the divorce after moving to Lagos. He stated that he does not believe in monogamy, arguing that it is alien to African culture.
The actor is widely recognized for his role in the classic film Living in Bondage (1992). He is also known for playing intense characters in iconic films such as Billionaires Club and Nneka the Pretty Serpent. He has received several accolades, including the MFR national honor.
Beyond acting, Kanayo is actively involved in philanthropy and social causes and unsuccessfully entered politics in 2023.